How to Dress like a Gentleman on Date Night
Shared by our awesome Featured Writer, One Gentleman.
Through One Gentleman’s Perspective, dressing well is a form of good manners. Let me rephrase this, because I understand how easily the topic of a male dressing well, can be misconstrued.
Through One Gentleman’s Perspective, dressing well according to one’s budget, is a form of good manners. A well-dressed male is not only defined as someone wearing: $3K blazer, $700 double monk-strap loafers, $200 belt, $50 socks, $200 trousers, $100 shirt, $15K timepiece and an $80 pocket square.
A gentleman can dress well to fit his budget, shape, style, occasion and yet, always remain a gentleman. You have so many things to assess about your big date, so I am here to assist in one particular department–dressing the part
Before I continue, if you believe in applying silly and misplaced labels on males, who believe that dressing well is a part of his code, exit the webpage now. If your idea of a good time is transferring your insecurities onto males, who dress well, close out this webpage now.
I have a lot of patience, but illogical minded people and those who enjoy spreading their negative energy–you are like a pest…a disease even. I refuse to be your host.
So, you have a date. Cool. Give me a rundown of tonight’s outfit.
- Un-ironed T-shirt
- Nike Air Max
Are you going to the gym before your date tonight? Hmm…so you are not going to the gym. Are you perhaps going to do laundry nearby, before you head to your date? Really? So this is not for the gym and you are not going to the launderette. Wait, this is actually your outfit for the date tonight. Wowzers! Tell me, where are you going for this date tonight?
- Dinner at a French restaurant and then a movie.
There is a time and a place for everything and as I have mentioned before, dressing well is a form of good manners. Tonight is not the time to show your date, just how much you love wearing your workout gear. Therefore, give me these items and place them back into your closet.
You want to be yourself, but you also want to be presentable. What is the restaurant’s dress code? This is important, so I always begin with the dress code. A quick Google search will provide an answer. It seems the dress code according to Yelp is casual elegance.
What in the world is casual elegance? This depends on the time of day and venue. Since the evening begins inside at a nice restaurant, think of casual elegance as dressing up a casual look, where casual is jeans and a collared shirt. It also represents a level below dressy, where you imagine a full suit. You are in the middle here, so keep that in mind.
With your dinner beginning at 6PM, here is my idea for tonight, as I look through your closet.
- Windowpane tailored sports coat
- Shawl collar merino wool sweater
- Point collar shirt
- Pocket square
- Brown belt
- Rust colored dressy chinos
- Brown shoes
- Blue socks (Match socks with something in the outfit. Tonight we decide to connect with the sweater and pocket square).
When you form a connection with your socks and item of clothing, it is a personal taste. Some guys exclusively match socks to the belt, socks with tie or socks to the pocket square. I simply link the socks with a color of the pocket square or tie. Some do not match the sock with anything. That is your preference.
However, I find it brings everything together, when there is a connection with the tie or pocket square.
Why did I choose brown shoes? Trousers complement with certain colors of shoes. Tan colored pants for instance, pair well with light brown, dark brown, burgundy, green and even navy blue shoes. Darker brown pants pair well with all of the above except burgundy. The belt’s color should complement the shoes, therefore we chose brown for tonight.
I chose the merino wool sweater, because the thin fabric pairs well with the sports coat. When you wear a sweater with a sports coat or blazer, the key is the fit of the sweater. It will not work successfully, comfort wise, if the sweater is too thick.
Before you leave, shine your shoes. A gentleman never departs his home, without first observing the cleanliness of his shoes.
The outfit chosen for tonight’s date, is not the standard outfit for all outings. However, the selection process is the typical approach. This particular outfit was merely a blueprint, for this evening and dress code.
The general blueprint when deciding what to wear:
- Determine where you are going
- Find out the dress code
- Complement colors within the outfit
- Wear something according to your build and style, but make sure it fits the dress code
- Never allow a price tag to define an outfit’s greatness. Instead, the way that you bring it together defines its greatness
- Make sure everything that requires alteration, goes to a tailor. There are no greater sins for a gentleman’s attire, than ill-fitted items.
When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you act good. When these things fall into place, you appear with an air of confidence, which is something women find sexy.
The attire is not what makes us appealing. On the contrary, you make you appealing. The clothes, well, they are simply an extension of who you are.
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