He Was “The One” and How I Got Over Him


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I was sitting and praying and thanking God for ‘the one’. “Thank you, Lord, for him. He’s wonderful and kind. He’s amazing. I can’t believe I found him. Wow.” Suddenly I felt compelled to look down on my opened Bible and the Ephesians 3:20 verse almost jumped out at me. It was God’s loving way of telling me he had someone much better for me, I stored the verse in my heart but I ignored God’s warning and continued to talk to ‘the one’. The relationship was brief, it ended with him posting ‘In a Relationship’ status on Facebook with a girl he told me not to worry about. This Christian man didn’t even have the guts to tell me that he and I were over – I found out through Facebook. A year later, I ran into him at a party with his better half. As I drove home that night, I realized I still cared for him and I cried out to God to help me get over him. I was really hurting. The next day, I received an email from him asking for a letter of recommendation, because he lost his job. I decided not to be bitter and to forgive him so I began to think what I’d write: “He was a hard worker – wait, no he wasn’t. He was honest – wait, no he wasn’t. He was loyal – wait, no he wasn’t. He was giving – wait, no he wasn’t. He was a good listener – wait, no he wasn’t.” And the scales began to fall from my eyes and I realized I was in love with a man I imagined him to be and not who he really was. I focused more on what he said than on his actions – big mistake. Remember ladies, actions speak louder than words. Would you recommend your guy or your ex to someone else?

Ephesians 3:20 “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us”


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