What If That Girl Was Your Daughter?
Shared by One Gentleman.
Today, we are going to peek inside the thoughts of a guy with an agenda. Please keep in mind, I am speaking through my perspective and not creating a one-size-fits-all belief, when I provide a response. I am only one guy…I am not God, a god or anything of the sort. I am one guy with an opinion. I provide my perspective through the eyes of one gentleman.
In my very short years, I have encountered very interesting characters. I know guys who enjoy the company of women, but have no expectation of sexual contact. I know guys who only desire her company for sexual reasons, and I also know guys who fall in between. To this last group, if it happens, it happens…but it comes secondary to just hanging out.
However, I will never forget one particular group of guys.
After I have sex with her once, she’s no good to me after that. Once is enough.
Listening to this story as an immature teenager, it actually made me laugh. Why did I laugh? At this point in my life, the number of sexual partners is what most young boys equate to one’s status. Though this concept of having sex once was foreign to me, it still connected to the general point of view, many boys my age held about sex. However, even at this immature stage, I asked for an explanation.
What exactly can she give me, which I did not receive the first time? I mean, if it was really good, then I may come back for seconds. Overall, I don’t see the point. Don’t you do the same thing?
Whenever I mention to my wife, female friend or relative, I fear having a daughter because of what she will face, 99% ask me why with a very perplexing look. To them, it is easier having a girl, because boys get into more trouble. If only they witnessed the other side of things. Once again, this is my perspective.
The other percentage immediately understands why, because they too say, I prefer having a boy. Now all things being equal, I simply want a healthy baby—that is it. Everything else is irrelevant beyond that. Boy, girl—I just want a child with my beautiful wife.
When I reference fearing what our daughter will face, I am referring to the stories like the one above. I love children. They are the very best part of humanity. I hear the sound of a child’s laughter and I enter cloud nine. While out with my wife and I see their little feet walking with mom and dad, we both smile.
To think, that young girl will become a teenager, where her body becomes the only thing of value, for someone she genuinely believes will care for her…it makes my heart weak.
That little girl you tuck into bed at night, will eventually graduate from high school and enter a campus. On this campus, there are guys who play a role and upon accomplishing the objective of this role, she is left in tears.
I am not referring to rape. What I am referring to is your classic bait-and-switch concept, where they tell you exactly what you want to hear. I am referring to him making you feel as the most beautiful, special and only girl in his world…but the moment he gets that thing, he hardly knows your name.
Nonetheless, to get back to his question…
I did not do the same thing. As much as I was one of the boys, pieces of my upbringing were always present. At that time, I did not see each girlfriend as a conquest of sorts, where the journey ended after our first sexual encounter. Looking back now, I know there are countless girls who thought they were everything in a boy’s eyes, but the walls came crumbling down soon after they had sex.
Looking back now, I want to mentor as many youths as possible, younger versions of me if you will, to assist in changing their paths. From experience, negative behavior is easier to follow, because it seems everyone is participating, which makes it appear as the norm.
I see young boys today and the direction they are heading; I find it terrifying for all young girls. I cannot change the world. However, if I can change the perspective of one young boy…that would truly be a priceless gift.
Sex is not the problem. However, their ignorance for the consequences—that is a different story. These young boys and girls believe sex is purely insertion and that is it. They fail to understand the emotional and physical consequences of a sexual act.
Did I agree with the approach of having sex once, and dashing towards the exit? I did not then, and surely do not now. It is all fun and games treating women as a sexual conquest. Well, that is until you have little girls of your own.
When that happens, the error of your ways soon set in. You then begin to realize, your daughter could be that girl.
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