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Why It’s Okay for a Gentleman to Cheat (1/2)

Why It’s Okay for a Gentleman to Cheat

Shared by One Gentleman.

I honestly believe it is not only acceptable, but also a requirement for a gentleman to cheat.

Wait a minute, before you close out the page and make an incorrect assessment on my ideals, hear me out. There is always a method to my madness.

I am a married man. In fact, my wife and I are still newlyweds. I have been cheating on my wife long before our wedding, but it has helped our relationship. At this point, you probably have one question on your mind. Even a cheating husband must be honest occasionally, but it is quite strange for a husband to advocate his infidelity openly. How do you cheat on your wife, and it somehow help your relationship?

The answer is quite simple really. My wife is my mistress…she is the other woman. Why physically seek out other women, when your wife or girlfriend can become this other woman?

I am sure this sounds confusing. The question then becomes, how does one cheat on their significant other, with their significant other? The answer to that question is straightforward. Both parties involved in the relationship, become completely different individuals, personas if you will. If taking on the identity of a completely different role is extreme, simply alter certain characteristics.

For instance, while role-playing with your partner, an introvert takes on the characteristics of an extrovert. However, instead of applying only characteristics, I find it more exciting when you become someone else entirely. When it comes to my wife, we have different names for our characters. In essence, you become anyone you desire–the possibilities are limitless.

Between my wife and me, we sometimes plan this sense of role-playing, but on other occasions, we act on impulse. Why is it so important for me to role-play? As a student in the art of being a gentleman, your significant other plays a vital role in this lifestyle. A gentleman is one who enhances the well-being of others, even when that involves taking on a role he is not yet familiar.

A gentleman understands relationships fail, when both parties forget their origin. A gentleman is aware of one thing: a man who loses sight of what sparked his relationship, is a man on a collision course with its failure.

Join me next time and become familiar with general examples, on how to cheat on your significant other, with your significant other. More importantly, I will share my own experience. Cheating is not wrong, if done with the right person. What better person for a husband to cheat with, than the woman he married? The flames of your marriage are only as strong, as the fuel that ignites it.

…to be continued.

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44 thoughts on “Why It’s Okay for a Gentleman to Cheat (1/2)

  1. I love this idea! Beautiful!

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    • Thank you sincerely. The goal was to use a play on words, and share one of the many concepts that I use to keep my relationship fresh. The way that I view my wife, is one where I would do anything to make her smile.

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  2. Reblogged this on Sex, Love and Discharge and commented:
    I have never reblogged before but this is great advice and worth the read!

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    • Thank you for the acknowledgement. The objective was to incorporate an idea that I use, to keep things fresh. Some will get it and see the play on words for what they are, and others will not. They will say things like, “Cheating with your partner is not cheating.” That is completely fine, but as long as people see the play on words, and grasp the overall concept…that fulfills my message. The message is simple: do whatever is necessary in your relationship, to keep the union solid. Thank you very much.

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      • Funny, that was the exact comment I got on Twitter! I thought it was clever. In my current situation I am called ma’am when he wants me to be in control, very similar 😉

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        • Whenever I write, I usually play devil’s advocate. Lol. I pick apart the post and see the different responses I would get. That one immediately popped into my head.

          I figured some would get it and understand the underlying concept, but others will not and completely miss the theme. When my wife read the post, she loved it and immediately grasped the theme. Whenever I write something that relates to women, I gather her feedback to see if it’s too harsh, etc.

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  3. I have to admit, I was ready to box when I first started reading this. Then that “ohhhhhhhh” moment washed over me. I do understand what you’re saying and I know a lot of people are into role-playing but I have always wondered: is that really enough? I feel like if people are unsatisfied with their partner or the idea of having only one partner, wouldn’t role-playing with that same partner become boring eventually? Isn’t at least some of the intrigue to cheat being with an actual different person? Someone else’s body, touch, sexuality… But perhaps that’s if you’re unhappy and unsatisfied in other aspects of the relationship. In a truly healthy relationship maybe simply role-playing is enough.

    I find what you said about an introvert becoming an extrovert somewhat interesting. Maybe it’s just me but I would find it a little hard to have a different personality type in terms of sexuality when it came to role-playing. Being different characters is one thing but to suddenly act differently or be into different things depending on the character would confuse me. I guess I just don’t see how someone who is introverted sexually can just suddenly become extroverted when it came to a certain role-playing scenario. I guess that is something that depends on the person though. Perhaps knowing it is a role-playing scenario makes the person feel more comfortable with themselves, which is a kind of interesting notion in itself.

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    • Thank you for the message. I usually create a blog post title, with the concept of triggering an emotion or interest. People read “cheating,” “gentleman” and why it is okay for him to do so…it immediately causes a reaction. Is role-playing enough? Nothing is “enough.” You need everything or nothing matters. It is not enough that my wife is beautiful for us to remain married…her character, devotion and things of that nature make her a great partner. Our relationship is based on setting expectations and effectively expressing them to one another.

      Without these two: a diamond ring each year, Celine bag every six months and a pair of Christian Louboutin pumps each month, will never create a blissful marriage–if all you have are gifts. For me, you need everything to create a successful relationship, beginning with expectations and communication. I shared this post, as a play on words, with one of the concepts I use in my relationship. Some will read the concept and understand the overall theme, but others will not. So it is good to see you understand my concept.

      If you are going to cheat, this aligns with your principles on life and nothing I can say will change that. I wanted to express that a relationship with your partner can bring excitement, if you actually try things you are not used to. When the concept of introvert vs extrovert was created in the 1920s by psychologist Carl Jung, he said, “There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.” According to psychologists today, we fluctuate between the two.

      Limitations are usually set by one’s ability to believe in the existence of the limitation. If you believe it is improbable to fluctuate between the two, then your mind will make it so. You are 100% correct that, “Perhaps knowing it is a role-playing scenario makes the person feel more comfortable with themselves.” Thank you once again. Your reaction is one that made the post, that much better creating.

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  4. Blue290 on said:

    Ah…I see what you did there. 😛 As we celebrate our 25th anniversary this year we fall in and out of Room Mate Mode. That coupled with juggling 3 children of various ages…life’s curve balls… And hitting that damn “50”….it takes it toll. I like your angle and will try to work into my marriage’s spring cleaning.

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    • First, 25 years is amazing. Immense congratulations on committing to your relationship for 25 years, when today it is common to divorce in less than one. Relationships are not easy, but people enter them in what I find as completely blindfolded. Yet question when the relationship fails. Nonetheless, I know I cannot relate my new marriage and no children, with your 25-year union and three kids. I will not even try. Lol. I want to thank you for understanding the direction of my concept.

      I know the concept may not go over well with everyone, but as long as you understand the direction…sharing was worth it. It really is an honor to hear that someone in a 25-year union would incorporate anything I mention, even if selecting small pieces from the overall idea. Thank you very much, that is truly humbling. I can learn from individuals, such as yourself, who have been married for so long.

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      • Blue290 on said:

        As I may have mentioned, it wasn’t a cake walk….but at our wedding ceremony the priest said one thing I held on to all these years: “Love is Sacrifice” Of course it has to go both ways, and sadly it gets very one-sided at times. Still a good reminder and baseline. I look forward to following your blog. 🙂

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        • Thanks very much food that. I hope your week concluded well. Love is sacrifice…it surely is. Sometimes for the betterment of the relationship, you have to swallow your pride. Thanks once again. Pride has destroyed many relationships; platonic and romantic

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  5. Ahhh, I loved that. Cheating with your significant other, sounds delightful.

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    • Mrs. Insanitybytes, I am sure when he walks through the door…he is cheating every day, without even knowing it. Lol. I am happy people on an overall basis, understand the concept. It was a play on words, with the theme of going that extra mile to enhance your relationship. As always, I enjoy your replies. I am still thinking about him not being fully aware, which individual he will encounter as he arrives home. LoL. Thanks so much for the read

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  6. I’ve been trying to explain a concept like this but could never find the correct words. Nicely put I believe this is how I would have explained it

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    • Very humbling…truly, that is very humbling of you to say. Thank you sincerely. You understood the concept, because you too believe in the idea. I believe this is why you did not misinterpret the overall theme, which I was trying to present. I guess you proved something to me: when you read something, you have the ability to bring your understanding into the mix, which can either undermine what you read or enhance. Hmmm…interesting. I genuinely appreciate the feedback. Thanks. You taught me something today. LoL.

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  7. Love this! Very true… And I don’t think it only applies to men. Women like yo spice it up to! 🙂

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    • Thanks. It definitely applies to all. I am happy you understand the overall concept. I believe when you have a relationship, with two people who genuinely love and respect one another, you must do everything to maintain that freshness. Thank you very much for the read. You just never know how people will ultimately react to a post. LoL.

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  8. Um, while we are at it why limit yourself to different people. One of you could be a kitty…if you hate cats and she plays the kitty just think how annoyed you’ll be when she keeps meowing and rubbing her ass all over your leg. I mean “bad kitty!” Hahaha.
    Seriously I loved your post, everybody should re play till they can do it with a straight face then do it some more. 🙂

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    • Lol. No limitations. I could see the look on his now. Humor is like a kiss to the soul. The last part made me think of my wife. The first time I tried (completely non-sexual), we were going shopping. i made it seem as if we were strangers, with no indication to her, as to what I was doing. I introduced myself and she did as well. However, she could not stop laughing because she used my real name and simply added “Lina” at the end of it. LoL. She could not think of a name on the spot. We still laugh about it. She eventually became comfortable with my unannounced switches. Thanks for the read and understanding the concept.

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    • Thank you very much for reading and commenting. It is always a pleasure receiving feedback. I am happy that you understand the overall concept, because you just never know how people will interpret a concept. Thank you once again. A relationship worth keeping, is one you must do whatever to maintain fresh.

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  9. This is so damn true

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  10. This reminds me of a photo caption saying “dinner with my ex-girlfriend” where the guy is actually out on a date with his wife. Sweet!
    Role-playing may be too much to handle for some or they may still have inhibitions but I agree that it’s about time to try new things with your one and only. One important thing too is to relive your moments as a young couple… Go back to the basics, focus on the traits you appreciate in your partner that made you fall in love in the first place – definitely will make you feel that spark again with the same person. No need to add another party in the scene. Ugh. If One Gentleman can do this, why can’t others? Spread this blog. can’t wait for the continuation!

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    • Lol. That is a pretty interesting caption. For many, Role-playing is not within a comfort zone. I will explain more in the next post. But there are elements that can enhance the way you view your partner. This concept was foreign to my wife, and the idea was laughable to her. Upon stepping out of her comfort zone, she realized the method behind my madness.

      This is what my concept is about: “One important thing too is to relive your moments as a young couple… Go back to the basics, focus on the traits you appreciate in your partner that made you fall in love in the first place.”

      I wanted to share that your relationship is one where you must do whatever is necessary, in maintaining the freshness. Sometimes, that means stepping out of your comfort zone. When you add another face into the mix, it erodes the trust, respect and foundation you created. I am simply saying, with an imagination, you can be with this “other” person, yet that person is your husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend. Thank you very much for the message.

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  11. This is such an interesting idea! I think that I was like a lot of other people “What!”lol…A most excellent read =D

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    • Lol. Thanks for the read and comment. That was done with purpose. LoL. I want people to read a title and scratch their heads. Lol. Thank you for understanding the overall concept, because some will read and completely disregard the theme behind the message. The idea is to always keep your relationship fresh, even if that means exiting your comfort zone. Thank you very much. I am humbled by your comment.

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  12. I don’t even know how I ended up here, but I thought this post was good.
    I don’t know who you are but certainly you’re going to a famous blogger if you aren’t already 😉 Cheers!

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  13. love, love, love this post. I’m a strong believer in keeping things spontaneous and exciting in a relationship. no one wants to feel like they’re on a hamster wheel. 😔
    can’t wait for party two! 😁

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  14. Reblogged this on diaryofanadhdwidow's Blog and commented:
    Fabulous way to be free and together

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